Apologies Apologies Apologies

What is an apologist? Someone who apologizes?

I like apologizing. It acknowledges that some wrong occurred, so the apologizer seems to carry some notion of personal responsibility.

Someone who recognizes a wrong may feel with, and have a conscience and a moral compass.

I can understand those that have issue with apologizing, because one admits they/he/she was wrong or made a mistake. Then we ask if kindness is weakness? It puts you in a vulnerable position apologizing.

I have said that if you apologize, try to never do that thing ever again, yet it is hard to be perfect, to not make any mistakes while you are living life.

Apologies lift the burden off of the wrongdoer. It is up to the “receiver” of the apology is he/she/they forgive the person for their wrongs, but either way the wrongdoer has cleared their conscience to a certain degree through admitting that wrong. This helps us progress and move forward with living.

No person is perfect, and apologizing builds bridges, as uncomfortable as they may be, between victims or receivers of the wrong and the wrongdoer. It may, if honest and sincere and an actual change occurs, build trust or build back trust.

Sometimes an apology from the wrongdoer helps the victim heal because the wrong was acknowledged and the victim is important enough to apologize to.

Apologies should not be habitual, they should be “few and far in between”. In other words, apologies should not occur often. This will increase the value of the apology and it will actual mean something significant. It is a balance though because as we live, we make mistakes.

Apologies humble the ego and remind us that we are imperfect. Apologies also help us move on and progress forward.

I feel that if you apologize, you should do so quickly and emphatically. You should be swift and acknowledge and articulate precisely, blatantly what you are apologizing for.

This is what I wish I could apologize for:

Every wrong action I have committed when I have wronged someone or hurt someone.

Insults I have made towards people, perhaps also insults that I have made without being aware that I made them.

Wrongs beyond my personal self that have occurred, in our present day, and also our shared human past. I wish these things never occurred.

I apologize and I hope and pray that you can find it in you to sincerely forgive me.

I forgive you, too, for any apologies you have towards me. We are all in this together and “all is one” and if I could I would release any burdens from you so you can progress forward and a live happy life. We live and we learn and you can never have too many friends.

Only some people may understand this: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE block the “badness” from “getting in”. That “badness” will provoke negativity, that “badness” will propel the individual to unhealthy anger at a minimum, and that badness will propel the individual to commit a wrong. No one is immune. At some layer of reality someone knows whom and what that “badness” is. PLEASE choose to not let it “get in”.

Please choose to not let the “badness” in, but if that person chooses “the badness”, I kindly ask relevant parties to please “disconnect” me from that person (who chose the “badness” over me) so I do not get tortured, non-consensually genetically modified, assaulted, or raped.